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Doing better than my ex reddit Me and my ex been together until she found “someone better”. (Self esteem, confidence, etc. I [31F] am struggling to rebuild my self-worth after my ex-fiancé [33M] left me for a woman [24F] who seems to be a younger, smarter, prettier, and better version of myself. 9% of us dont know what were doing. she says and shows it constantly. This probably doesn't help you much, but because he treats her better isn't malicious. My sexual orientation at this point is ex-sexual. Seems like she's engaged and has plenty of friends. I think right now it’s helping that I am advancing to do adulting stuff because at this stage I’ve been busy making Give it some time. 5 months and I found out today that he got a new girlfriend when we’d been broken up for about 1. Ugh. I'm sure it hurts that he treats her better than you. So, I had a serious 3 year relationship with this guy, we were even engaged at one point. Back when I was with her I made sacrifices to my education and future just to be with her. I focused on my new relationship. I deserve to be loved and I deserve respect. Don’t feel bad. her profile is private so the only thing I could see was her new profile pic with another guy. Her new boyfriend is unemployed and she’s support him. I messed up and I feel terrible hurting him. Just because your ex seems to be doing a little better now doesn't mean this will always be the case. I would be doing the same things (studying, becoming succesful, becoming happier). I didn’t think that I would ever find someone better than my ex and I still think about him sometime but my now fiancé treats me like a princess and would never do something to me like my ex My pets are calm and happy rather than nervous and hiding. he has a new long term girlfriend and he seems so much happier, i have blocked him on all social media but we share the same friend group so its hard not to avoid him. My ex broke up with me 6 months ago. "I'm doing a lot better than my ex when it comes to relationships. I know I shouldn't compare myself to anyone, but I feel like I just look like a loser? The breakup was mutual as we were in LDR and it was not exactly working out and we didn't have any future. First long term relationship. 5 years since breakup, 7 months since no contact, i've been dreaming about her more lately. but it still feels like i lost her and i lost the breakup too. Since then every time I see her I destroy her with kindness I ask her how she is and how she feels. I fell out of love and eventually broke up with him and it was pretty amicable. It was there I met my lover and began an intense affair. I hadn’t posted in this sub for the longest time as I had been super kind to myself and I felt like I was in a much better place, but man, I’ve never felt so undesirable and replaceable in my entire life. But it makes my blood boil that he is doing so well while I'm struggling. However, the relationship was ultimately toxic. Tdlr; am i weird for being over my ex of nearly 3 years after two weeks? Whenever I'm alone, I have the urge to look at my ex best friend's insta stories. He made her his profile picture. Which hurt a lot but I don’t even care anymore. But yeah tbh i feel shit about that myself too. My ex-husband left me (while I was pregnant and raising our first baby) for a much younger woman who made him deliriously happy. Log In / Sign Up; Advertise on Reddit; Shop Collectible Avatars; My ex is better at sex than my current boyfriend. I just thought it was low blow on Carly given she knew how insecure I was about my brother, he’s the golden child and literally always did things 10x better than me. Not even close to being over my ex. My best friend studied exactly what my dream was to study but i couldn't bc of injury. I wasn't encouraged or supported. I wasted 6 years of marriage with her. My ex is dating a new guy for a distraction cause she's very lonely and misses me like crazy. And I see lots of people saying the 40s are better than the 30s. “ honestly It’s fine because Louie was over last weekend and we had a great time” my heart dropped to stomach, because Louie is my big brother. Just don’t turn yourself into someone you’re not, just to get your ex back. I didn’t. I've been in therapy for the last few years, it was harsh to realize what I put my ex husband through. 3 year relationship. I spoke with my ex fiancé today . REMINDER: Rules regarding civility and respect are enforced on this subreddit. My ex is a gold digger of course she is doing better after she dumped me because money matters more to her. Probably has a sugar Daddy and is going on expenses trips all over the world. I’m not upset or angry at him. Not thinking about your ex and their life will help you concentrate on your life. We’ve been broken up for 3. I blocked my ex but we have so many mutual friends, her fucking name would still pop up from time to time no matter what. You need to keep yourself busy and distracted. i will get over it, but for now its an annoying feeling in the pit of my guy. I can pretend like I’m doing okay so that she feels better or I can tell her the truth and see what happens. It didn’t help that I was 5 foot lmao. YOU ARE CAPABLE. A couple of years later I moved to NZ, was married and had 2 kids. The therapy thing was the real gut punch, it's the main reason we broke up because he couldn't manage his emotions and got overwhelmed, he promised he would get help and be better for me when we were together and never did . I feel I should be too old or mature for this. our relationship was way more intense and stronger than the last When my older brother was my age, he had secured a good job, bought a house together with his partner. My ex always told me I was the perfect guy, that she wouldn't ever find someone better than me. All commenters should be trying to help and any help should be given in good faith, as if you were My ex broke my heart a few months back now but to me he was everything I could have ever wanted. But I realized that it also made me a better person. Felt much better and I don't regret my decision at all and the for a while turned into never again. my ex is looking better than ever and i cant stand it it ended badly 9 months ago (1 year relationship) and have kind of been no contact, other than the weird period where we talked about it, then started doing his weird tricks of trying to lure me back by hitting me up randomly, and i finally blocked him again about 2 weeks ago. My heart shattered when I saw her, she’s so much prettier than me (I’m very insecure about myself), has a way better job and her family works within the same business industry as my ex so I can only imagine that aspect of his life is excelling too. I blocked him. All were chaotic and toxic. On the other hand, you might be going through intense emotions like rage, anger, depre It’s also possible that your ex is doing better without you and better than you because you have mental health problems, financial difficulties, difficulties finding work, issues I know that it's me, but how can I change my view on this? I spoke to my friend to talk to him about this issue and we both went to meet this girl. We broke up about 7-8yrs ago. The great part about my ex being my ex is that his preferences aren’t my I want to focus on myself because there’s so much work I need to do to build my confidence back and put my life into a better perspective. So I never did, and that's okay because Im passed the whole "victim-mentality" and don't blame her because Im human too. I knew that I would feel better. She's doing better than me. One day I realized that my cats were sprawled in the middle of the floor, on their backs, purring away and totally unconcerned when I stepped over them. I guess the irony of it, and even though it should be a good thing, is that what if my ex finally makes the positive changes after we broke up? He will keep coming back until he finds someone better than you ( in his view) . You must I'd say I was finally able to start caring about my future and seeing a possible life beyond my ex about a month ago. It was a bit of a whirlwind romance and ended on good terms. We still share a few expenses and she told me how she’s doing , the job opportunities shes getting to and where she plans on maybe moving . thanks for reading. seem to be doing better now but I'm just trying to say that everyone's lives have ups and down. Which is all that matters, and he might have a small piece too. It’s a terrible feeling and I know I shouldn’t be having it, but it always comes up. Get app Get the Reddit app Log In Log in to Reddit. I have nothing that can match her abilities and I feel she'd be better off with someone more successful. so why is my brain doing this to me lol. Hurtful, cruel, rude, disrespectful, or "trolling" comments will be removed (along with any replies to these comments) and the offending party may be banned, at the mods' discretion, without warning. My Mom couldn’t do half the shit my Dad could, my Dad couldn’t do the shit my mom had to do - on the basis that he couldn’t work 3 part time jobs because he believes he should be bringing in much more money - and he would be right - because that’s what the women say he has to do. The contrast with how they were around my ex drop-kicked me. Maybe it's not that you weren't good enough, perhaps she's trying to find someone quickly to fill in the hole you left behind. Do not feel bad for this. My bf was a great bf but he told me he couldn’t see a future with me anymore. Relationships are not a competition but I think breakups are because one person will come off worse than the other. Yes I am in the anger stage of the break up, but I would be lying if I say I didn’t feel indifferent to what he is doing now :/ Edit: okay, I didn’t think this post was going to get this much traction this was definitely an emotionally charged statement I wanted to get out whilst I I was just doing better than many of my friends and making plans to secure a better future. You know what - you are right about the first part. During my relationship I constantly thought about how every other girl was better than me and that my ex could really find someone 1000x better than me. In my case, my ex moved on fairly quickly more so for the rebound relationship so she doesn’t have to deal with the stress of the breakup. Divorces really teach you a lot about yourself and who you are in relationships. My ex said the same thing to me and I told her it’s because that person appreciate the small things I did for her and she deserve this and that , my ex made leave work early to help her fix her flat tire, got into an argument she said I never do anything for her, no flowers and candy etc . But also, what my ex cares about literally doesn’t matter! On the flip side, I’m sure my ex is also far more into his girlfriend now than me because I know I’m not his type either. I get so jealous and honestly, pissed off. I get along with my new crush as much as I was with my ex. At one time, instead of saying something along the lines of "you're better at this one thing than I am" I just said "you're better than me" and that was the absolute beginning of the end. I take full responsibility of it. I (23M) was dumped by my ex (25F) on new year's day over the phone. the thing i wanted to say to my ex is never ever come back to me, even if I'm crying and begging for you . I know my ex isn't dating yet, but even if he got with someone "better", I actually won't be too sad - I think this means I'm making a lot of progress lol and am finally accepting that he really wasn't who I thought he was, and that I was attracted to the image that I had initially projected onto him, and not actually him the person himself. I don’t know what to do. Ex. Recently she started seeing someone new and has just recently told me that he is way better in bed than I was. I am sad, obsessing over the breakup, in therapy weekly, destroyed over this and she is happy and has someone else? my ex feels the same way. I’m not the type of person who will stalk people on social media but I couldn’t help but notice that my ex-boyfriend was doing all the activities that I wanted to do with him with his new girlfriend. It took a few months for me to realize what I wanted but by then it was too late. On the You should only focus on yourself after a breakup. While its true we can all do better than we are doing today, relationships go through ups and downs and take work. For me not knowing what he's up to is just better for my mental sanity, but that being said I wish him the best in life. Couple of months ago, my ex and I finally physically parted ways from a lease we shared, and I challenged myself to walk away from this situation. That last one was a huge Ah-hah moment for me. I always compare my ex to them and think that she’s better. I had to do a lot of unpacking. There are many reasons why relationships fall apart, but I do treasure the good memories I got from those relationships. Eventually we moved back to Just because he is objectively more attractive than you doesn't mean SHE is more attracted to him than you. They would still text me asking if I’m okay and they called once saying I had to reply to them. I treat my fiancée way better than I did my ex wife, because I learned to be better towards people I'm in a relationship with. What bothers me most about this is that she is so pretty. He has moved on and found someone better-looking than me, and I am frustrated that I haven’t done the same. I think what’s interesting is I wouldn’t even say I know any of my ex-boyfriends anymore. I was always encouraging my ex to do better for both themselves and children. All she did was look pretty and he would fall head over heels for her. She didn’t even lose a toothbrush in that Right?! Gosh how did we go through something similar. It made me upset to the point that i stopped using all socials. And he’s taking her on all these trips that we planned on going together. im like what about the small things ? They add up . He wanted to stay friends. don't let her define you. We all get to have our own preferences. So, when your Not just yet, but there's tons of people out there better than my lying, cheating ex. at all. Several of my ex's have had guys living with them less than 3 weeks after break up. They worked together so it may have started before we finished. I don't feel the need of having him in my life, but i also don't mind wishing him a happy birthday and merry christmas. We both found each other at very low points in our lives. Dumped me for some pig boy who buys her nice things. How do I How to deal with my girlfriend [21F] ex being better than me [22M]? I now that she loves me so much more than se ever loved him, because our relationship is much closer and personal and we had talked about this before but I can’t avoid feeling insecure. Realistically, it is probably a good thing that nobody will love you like that. I also screwed up things with my ex and knowing that makes it harder I think. My ex of more than 2 years ended things with me in early December. My girlfriend also has people and dudes who try and hit on her and it bothers me but she doesn’t really do anything about it, BUT when her and her ex were together she blocked ME and really had no reason too I guess maybe I’m confused. My ex was exactly my type, it was like she was handcrafted to be the most attractive woman possible to me. Pretty much all of them have had a guy less than 2 weeks after break up. That said my wife isn’t bad just not the robust sex-lunatic that some of the women I’ve dated have been. My one suggestion: check in with his new GF, assuming you know her well enough to have a private chat. Only way I can completely move on is if I can really find a girl better than my ex, which is very difficult as it’s hard to find both a good looking girl and I was a bit drunk at that point and said something like “you don’t fall in love with looks, look at me and my wife I love her more than anything compared to my ex who was just looks” everyone went silent and my damage control was worse so I ended up shutting the hell up. All lockdown and covid had me taken down. As time went on, she got less independent (her big dream was to open a coffee house and dropped that), she got more dependent, more intrusive, more jealous, and paranoid. i know this for a fact because he’s having a hard time moving on, i’m his first love and he couldn’t imagine himself being with someone else nor me being in diff relationship. I'd never cheat but I've been having sex dreams about the second most recent ex lately (the one with the big dick) and I know he'd be dtf if I ever wanted (he lives a 5 minute drive away). That’s fine, I’m my boyfriend’s type. I completely stopped thinking about other women because she was just that perfect to me. I honestly think she thought I was going to be her golden goose. She now has a thriving, happy family of her own. My ex and I have remained friends up until the point that she started seeing someone new. Maybe I guess he reminds me of my ex (except the workout part lol) but it doesn't mean that I forgot my ex and our good moments. She was really pretty and an even better personality. This is literally one of my biggest issues rn my ex is so damn hot, 100% my type, and I haven’t found a man that looks anywhere near as good looking as he does. I’m better looking, taller, muscles, outgoing personality, take my ex on cool adventures. I constantly make up some stupid stuff in my mind about how I could rekindle my friendship with her, but at the same time, I don't even want to. Obviously I don't want anything bad to happen to him. I consider myself a kind and loving person with a big heart. Doing it for my ex was just a good motivation to start. We argued. I got mad and went off. But that also has to do with the fact that I was way more immature back then than I am now and that also has to do with the fact that I now know what I want in life, which I learned through this experience. I’m guessing you’re currently not where you want to be so your checking if she’s doing better than you, and all the abuse she projected towards you was true. I feel like my ex is doing better than me I feel like every time i look at where I am at, I feel like I’m less successful and less happy than what my ex is probably feeling. We recently got engaged and I'm super excited and can honestly say our relationship is stronger and better than ever. I will look up Ex’s just to see who they are doing with the hope I’m doing better than them. my dreams are very similar to what you described. The reality of it is thinking and caring for my ex’s wellbeing is no longer my responsibility with that being said I am better off for no longer having that responsibility. Ex is doing better I messaged him yesterday, he didn't have time for me but said he is going to Therapy now (something I begged he do for himself when we were together) , his career seems to be really taking of and he's having a "glow up" with fitness, entertaining girls (I checked his socials) (I know, I know). I had a couple of terrible dates between breaking up with my ex and meeting the love of my life, but entering into a relationship with someone who truly cares about me and my feelings made me realize how manipulative and abusive my ex was. TL;DR : My question is, what the fuck do I do? At the same time, he may very well have learned his lesson and is doing better. I guess it's easier to wish the ex and I were still in love than to think about the theoretical future person who I will probably love someday. Of course I cannot know what's going on behind closed doors, but they do things for them they never did for me - proudly show them off on social media, go on expensive vacations, move in with them, meet their parents etc. Let's call your ex 'X'. Not for my ex to see but for my potential future partner to see. I don’t compare myself to the new guy, but if I had to I can easily say I believe I’m a better person than he is. Yes, I understand where you’re coming from. Having only been together a few months the honeymoon phase ended in December as she got a new job closer to I’d rather talk to her and see if she’s doing better than waiting and not knowing. Unfortunately I have a terrible time choosing the wrong women and ignoring red flags and end up choosing the wrong parters again, but that hasn’t stopped me from constantly upgrading myself. I was sour and bitter for a long time but those feelings were holding me back from a good man who was trying to treat me right. FYI some of us out are having better sex in our 30s than in our 20s. I learned that I had built up a narrative in my head of the "perfect" version of our relationship. We were also polyamorous but considered eachother primaries, and I kept getting annoyed at her other partners because of just who they were, how they treated her and how annoying I thought they Today I am about 35% financially recovered. However, I just realized that after each break up, they end up doing really well - new job, better house, engaged, etc. My ex and his AP lived together for the last 2 years of their 3 year affair. They force him to be better. For me, there were some good memories and in some ways, he got me to think about things differently. It’s okay even if she’s moved on and has found someone else, I just want to know if she’s gotten over all the trauma she went through at the end of our relationship. But now here's my problem: I cannot stop comparing how he treated her and how he treats me. what is she doing with me? yet she loves me so much, and I don't know why. At 19 I moved across to the other side of my big city and hardly saw anyone. Like you, I was also doing much better since the break up having gained a much more muscular athletic body and losing that lanky teen image. I am seeing someone casually but frankly I don’t find him nearly as attractive as my ex, and emotionally, I am nowhere near over him. This is how it started. Being separated and all its stressors does not help. Chances are, these things are not even happening at all! Don't even let your mind wander to this degree. Hi guys. I had to accept that I had no control over the relationship, my ex, or life as a whole. Long story short, I was with my ex boyfriend for 3 years and never suspected a thing. In doing so, I narrowed my vision to the point where the relationship became my identity. Any idea? P. It hurts, but I’m doing my best to be happy for him. We were long distance though, and a couple of weeks ago she left me for someone else. The comparison would only be hurtful and disrespectful and would serve no purpose. But, I'm sorry that this isn't making you feel better, but what it does show is that you're a good person who has a kind heart and doesn't want this to happen, even if they screwed you over and to that I say: You're an awesome person!!! I don't know what my cheating ex is doing but I kinda want to know if she's in a better place or worse off. My ex is treating his new gf so much better. It had to go according to plan or else I was a failure. That is not true, I am a single mother and my ex cheated on me during my pregnancy and ppd why do u think we are damaged goods? We are not. My ex has a baby with his new wife after promising me the exact same. Likewise, I have ex that made my ex feel insecure, physically or financially. But I can pay my bills, life comfortably for the moment, and that’s a win over the last 2 years, and a decent place to move forward from. I feel your pain, but I would rather be Lone than dmwazte my time on zomone that would Thank you so much. And by the end of those 3 years, he was more like a mentor But I can't get this issue out of my mind. I personally unfollowed my ex because I didn’t want to see her move on or really get caught up in these exact emotions. She had found another guy and says she doesn’t love me no more and has now blocked me on everything you can think of. I just got really high and was thinking about my past relationships. The last couple of times we've had sex, that's all I I know my ex and my best friend are seeing each other behind my back. My ex tried saying she meant to send them to someone else. I'm not over her, and I'm just coming to the realization I don't think I'll ever have a love as deep as I did with her. Your ex just needs to have lost feelings before you because a lack of romantic feelings prevents your ex from So, what does it exactly we mean when we say our exes are doing better than us after a breakup? This includes things like going out and having fun with friends, going on a lot of other dates, or even replacing you with someone else. Exactly. He has blue eyes and a little beard just like my ex, and is so nice and cute, and he does workout too. But I always have that thought in the back of my head that he’s in a better place than I am. I'm objectively prettier and fitter than I was when I was with him, and humbly, objectively better than new gf. Yes we are strong and independent I will give you that but no I didn’t sign up to be treated with such disrespect. First woman who I actually loved and felt loved back. Stop jumping to conclusions. I finally let go of my feelings of jealousy and bitterness and more opportunities of living my life happily and healthily popped up. Since we broke up, he got a new hairstyle that I told him to get when we were dating; but he refused. And now he's been telling me I'd probably be better off with someone else or my ex. Expand user menu Open settings menu. Even to this day, when my ex Alex and I aren’t half as close as we used to be, I feel like she just gets me and always has. Not only that, it was a situationship that only lasted four months. Time changes people- whether they like it or not. He was better looking than me (42M), he’s won all kinds of awards and accomplishments, has thousands of friends, and was only going to be in town for a few months until he moved to study abroad. I had to change myself too much (didn't see my friends as much, neglected my business and my fitness) so fundamentally ended up without mates, fat and earning less money. I didn’t find my person. This weekend I saw my ex for the first time in 1 year since we broke up. Eyup. So many “what ifs” and “I should l haves”. 5 months since BU, 1 month NC. . Sounds narcissistic but really, date yourself. but overall i cant help but be bothered even though so much time has passed. I know it’s probably hard to believe given how nauseatingly pathetic I sound right now but before this happened, I really felt like a confident and content human being. ) someone on here said to fall in love with yourself. With my new gf I still think she's I feel you. She was the main reason I went there, and now it's too late to cancel. We actually talk things out! That's a first to me - definitely very new to it. I was told my ambition was "unrealistic" on several occasions. Sooo many guys are sick of hearing about me from my ex's lol. Well they ended up pregnant and having two kids and it took almost ten years but they’re separated and miserable now. And anotherone studying psychology that was also my dream but that i also had to quit bc of mental illness It I wanted my partner to know I was still processing some things related to my ex. I’d appreciate any advice you can give to help get my mind over this once and for all. A retweet here, a Facebook tag there. All equally fucked up. I (28f) My ex is doing better than me. And now that he finishes that he even becomes a doctor. My ex got into a new relationship very soon after our breakup, causing him to just abandon me once he had someone better lined up. He was so patient and understanding to me, absolutely gorgeous (I struggle to feel attracted to people and he was the first person I had those feelings for!), super tall, cared for his family, good job and just really open minded and sweet. 5/2 months. After our separation I have found a person with whom I share a profoundly deep spiritual and emotional bond. I hope you're doing better and if you're still struggling, give yourself time, patience and love. I've been trying to tell him that he is big and gives me pleasure, but he doesn't believe me. I'm not happy but I'm starting to stop being so confused about everything Believe that you and your ex are at different points in life and that you can both be successful-accept wherever you are and who you are is enough for right now. this may sound really petty and selfish of me, but seeing my ex thrive is making me feel so sad. Yet, I am always in a toxic relationship or unhappy, struggling to finish college and get a career. It wasn't a mistake. i need some advice on how to stop I kept her waiting for 2-3 months. Luckily I don't use social media (as in Instagram etc) do so that's probably helped I'd recommend not looking and searching for them as it feels awful to know/think they're doing well and sets you back. She was with her mum so I didn't stop her but we both looked at each other dead on. I’m working to better my life for my son and I. I asked him to grow out his hair for years and he never did till he started dating her. As expected it opened up the void she left again and I cried for several days. Basically the title says it. i know i shouldn't be upset by this but find it so bothersome that my ex lives a better life than i do. More succesful, older therefore more mature, so pretty and with that mysterious aura around her, funny, extroverted, cool friends, extremely popukar, just a fun person to be around. She knows who I am, how I am, loves all of me (not romantically anymore). Why is my ex treating her new boyfriend better than she ever treated me ? My ex contacted me after 6 months yesterday as to explain herself of what happened, we had a 2 year relationship and she broke it of we had a fight and she moved on in a month's time. I don't want to break up with her, but sometimes I feel like I'd be doing her a favor. Just as the title says, I'm at the 5 month mark since me (28m) and my ex-gf (26F) of 2 years split. However Why would you tell him that? It honestly seems like you wanted to hurt him. First woman that I ever attached myself to and loved dearly with all of my heart. I love my BF and I know he is one hundred times better than my ex, both in terms of being a partner and as a person. I never believed in soulmates until I met him, so it crushed me by how out of the blue it was and when I asked why he said he got another woman pregnant. My gf looked at the pictures and asked for my ex’s number so she could text my ex her own nudes back so that she “could show her how it’s done. And it's not some hot guy that You are better off ripping off the bandaid taking time for you to heal and feel normal again and meeting someone 1000% better who actually deserves you. I don't want my ex back. She is always commenting on my social media posts that she is so proud of me and so happy for me, she is supportive in a way that Sophie never is. But I wish him no happiness whatsoever. Recently found out shes talking to someone new and its destroying me. I guess I still think about the ex because it was a happy time in my life (and my first love and all that) and, were it to somehow magically go back to how it was, I would be really happy again. But I don’t understand why she treated her ex so much better even though he was a piece of shit. She was smoking hot but she wasn’t perfect. Why does my ex-boyfriend who I was with for five years treat his new girlfriend of 4-5 months better than he treated me? This is actually very confusing to me. We were completely in love and as a unit, we were raising our kids together. Looking back from my early twenties until now, every ex I’ve had I’m doing better than. He always cared for materialistic things and how he looks in front of others. I was so comfortable with my ex immediately despite this, so I got attached fast. Before then it was very amicable good conversation as we broke up due to distance and we didnt feel there was a reason to stop being friends. After my break up , I became really bitter and quite depressed as I knew my ex was fine and doing well but I was struggling. My career and mental health were all that mattered. I did seek therapy. Also for me there was not really a difference between working on me for myself or my ex. I'm in my late 20s, I had a BF in my late 10s and early 20s (on and off 5yrs as friends, and bf gf). Otherwise clocks ticking tbh. I don’t know why I’m already over him. My boyfriend's ex is so much better than me In every way. Yes, it's been a year since my break-up, more or less, and just thinking about being intimate with someone else makes me want to cry and throw up. I'm happily in a healthy relationship and expecting my first child. It feels so damn good to be in control again. Well said. 99. I am not better than her, even though Im not the one who cheated-who gaslit-who fucked up. She was my confidant, and my best friend. I may get some judgement for this but it works for me and a few friends. I don't mean to sound gleeful that on paper i. He was my best friend, and soulmate; that's not something you get more than once in a lifetime, especially not when you're an alien like me. Guys from my past seem to treat their next gfs generally better than they treated me. I don't think I'll ever have a love as I did with her again. I just don’t care. Even if she'd answer my messages, we Then after doing everything I meant to, my stupid brain says "hey why not see if your ex unblocked you yet" and of course, she had. If you're worried about X doing specific things (ie, dating elsewhere, gone off the rails) Just because X is doing Y doesn't mean X is doing Z. i was younger than my ex by 7 yrs. I only had the one ex, my ex wife. My wife of 14 years isn’t as good at sex as some of the partners I’ve had before we met. 2 I had an ex that I helped move to my state and helped fund tons of stuff who ended up sleeping with my friend. While I know I am doing great, I hear through the grapevine things about my ex such as she is with a new guy who is objectively a lot better looking than me, bought a house, etc. My ex had told me before the breakup how it'd be all meaningless sex with new guys and how she was going to date for a distraction. My credit is still low 500s and I cannot remember the last time my savings had more than $0. In my late 10s (17 which is minor), i really wanted to date him but he rejected me. She's an abusive, selfish person who I should of had the strength to leave long ago. Everything from her body to her style and mannerisms was just everything I wanted as far as looks are concerned. We broke up about 6 months ago as we drifted apart an I met my current GF and there was undeniable chemistry between us I ran off and stayed with my dad. My brain keeps asking "how does this make any sense" even though there's no actual answer and I doubt even he'd actually have a (truthful) one. And you can outgrow ur ex. It will take you a bit of extra time to get to the point where you feel happy, but understand that the happiness you achieve will be deeper, more meaningful, and longer lasting than whatever he's pursuing right now. How so? I recently found out that my boyfriend actually treated his ex better than me. I told them that I’m fine and they don’t need to worry and I don’t need to do anything. End of this month I'm going on Erasmus to her country. He has told me that she was toxic a couple of times and he regretted being with her but I don't really know what he has done for her. I've been able to move past and let go. Am engaged. hope you're doing better man. S: I don’t think that she is doing this to leave the door open whatsoever, I think she truly just doesn’t want me to be in pain and because she’s so emotionally detached, shes doing much better than I am. I told her that my gf was sitting next to me and saw the messages and is pissed. It didn’t even pop I'm not back with my ex but this is what I've been doing, my health and wellness has become what's important and building strong friendships, being grounded, focusing on my career and studies (ish with the Studies). I'm just loving me and no matter who comes into my life, I'll be much nicer to myself and ultimately a better partner. Me forgiving her puts me on a pedestal above her. She is way prettier than me. My life externally has become a lot better since then (in some ways), I’m not as anxious anymore, I have a way better job, I’m eating better sleeping better etc However, somethings shifted in me. Anyways if it makes you feel better my gf's ex's are all bum ass, ugly dudes compared to me and I still get jealous too so it's really not that unique. Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help! My ex is doing better than me and the resentment is effecting everything in my life. At 30 I travelled through Europe and met a kiwi. He texted me like less than a week later checking in on me. Some people are willing to put it in and some take an easy route out as soon as its not what they imagined. And I keep that shit to myself. What id say is if your intention is to move on and find another partner you shouldn’t be keeping up with their socials. When my older sister was my age, she'd travelled the world, studied overseas, done volunteer work in third-world communities, married, had her first child. Feels better man. I met him very soon after going through a very traumatic event at the hands of another man. it really fucks me up because during the day time i'm generally thinking about her less. And you say they’re not? This is my first post so here goes. It kills me that my ex cheated on me with my best friend for months while we were still together. Think it’s safe to say my ex really gave my high standards now. I don't know if this will help, but the thing that helped me get back my self confidence the most was remembering that my perceived self worth to When I met my ex after a year of our break-up, we just passed by each other in the mall. If anything their new person is one helluva emotional tampon. His last words to you, "You deserve better than me," do not sound like the words of a hopeless narcissist, so maybe he actually has improved. Went to the same party my ex was at, we hadn't seen eachother in months and I noticed he stared at me some, even though he was with his new gf. For all I know. His ex wife to be exact. Will I ever find better than this perfect match of an ex? TLDR; me and my ex were perfect for eachother. I wanted him to be my person but he found someone so much better. BG my home life was abusive and I wanted to leave everything behind. What you're describing is you being emotionally unintelligent and How do I accept my ex has someone new? I 32(m) dated my ex gf (30f) for 6 years, lived together for 5 broke up 6 months ago after she said she lost feelings for me. I fucking hate myself and my stupid brain. I guess it would take a very special woman to be better than all those three. 9. But it's doing a number on my self-esteem to see this person who claimed to love me treat someone he's claiming to "settle for" better than he ever treated me. I I personally think it's because I overthink everything, my mind races and I have a hard time letting go of bad memories but I had a very good summer and I'm definitely doing better than I was last year. I’m not. Am I a monster for wanting to move on so quickly? I was with my ex (28M) for about a year. I’m sure he’s basking in the joy. She may run into someone she thinks is better than him or he may be tempted for someone younger than her. I told my ex I needed space and wanted to go NC for a month to get my head on straight to be able to be the friend they wanted. After he dumped me, I decided I really want to focus on my self. My ex broke up with me “cuz of distance” and we wanted different things. Good thing I was able to stop myself checking other social media. It's less than a month, and everything is working out for him, and my life has fallen apart because of him. I dated my ex for 8 years. Almost 2 years out. But the best thing to do is stop waiting for them , from my view they will never be the same and you will become an option for him. She was a great person. My ex is also hot and i won't lie to u, its very easy for her to be with other men, but any girl with a good looking body can do thatm We as men we take revenge much later when we show strenght to work on our lives without that avoidant ex. First, their "rebound" isn't getting the best of them. But we were still happy mostly while we’re together. Your ex doesn't necessarily have to have a better life to be doing better than you. 02 in it. he isn’t my first, in fact it was my fourth relationship and it’s comparable out of all of my previous relationship. The divorce rate for second marriages is between 60 and 67%. Ex: my husband burned his you-know-what making pasta the day I found out he had a weird EA with a catfish. Also let it out ventMy dms are open if when you get overwhelmed with anger msg me what your ex did that is making you so angry maybe my ex did something similar that I can share with you I have heard and felt that it makes things just a little better when you aren't the only one that is experiencing the troubles so its an option. He's much nicer than my ex (who was emotionally abusive and mostly distant and never gave attention/affection), and he actually listens. I can’t even lie to myself that they were not attractive because they are. I DID overlook all his flaws and wanted to get fucked by him so bad that I compromised. Hope you’re doing better. And I’m here having to have moved back home , working on finishing grad I divorced my ex wife ten years ago and dumped the rebound nine years ago, I don’t know why they can’t move on, especially the rebound. Not OP, but in my experience, I miss the good memories of my ex-boyfriends. We're all equal. its not a competition, i get that. Don't get me wrong, he's SO kind. And another friend of mine alsi doing a phd. Not everything is happening at once. I broke up with him after a lot of forgiving, how would you feel in this situation? You need to make her doing better than you a source of motivation, once you’re successful and happy with your life you’ll eventually stop comparing yourself with her. ” I called my ex and asked her what the hell she was doing. After every breakup I’ve worked to improve myself. I got the kid in the divorce, so at least my ex wife has a little bit of an excuse to be mad at me but there was nothing to fight over with the rebound chick. My ex (31F) ended up getting with a new guy (23M) within a couple months. If you werent violent or cruel, tried your best despite your mistakes, and had honest feelings for them, dont beat yourself up. 2. She was my first everything. But they remained stagnant throughout our relationship, and I became resentful because of it. I began by cutting the emotional connections, and despite a lot of urges to contact him, I resisted, reminding myself that doing so will only prolong the healing process. I’m fine all day as I’m busy with my kids but when I get into bed at night I just feel crushed, lonely and inadequate. He still tried to find ways to reach out to me and I blocked him This is the same for me. I know a lot of people aren’t in speaking terms with their ex’s or can’t even contact them and for many this wont apply, but if you can I highly recommend saying thank you. My ex is doing better off without me. I don't want to fuck my ex though - I want my boyfriend's brains/personality/looks with a bigger dick. A couple months later, a girl messaged me on Instagram and asking if I dated my ex. gvqz leaduj qsjdav zwcdnrko pwqvz rzv cdwhw unuc ouhlbu bjku